Understand Your Fear Of Knowing Your Opponent

Fear, the most unfounded, for bad things that could happen to us or cause us some kind of future harm, are the main causes of our dissatisfaction. We all hide some fear that causes us to behave in an evasive way in certain crucial situations in our lives. Thus, there is no greater adversary than ourselves and our own fears. Therefore, you should learn to understand your fears.

Fear stems from past experiences. In the process of socialization from childhood to adulthood  , we get our fears. Usually it is from the people who were either closest or most influential to us. This usually happens in a subconscious way. If these people are reference points or role models for us, their fears will point out dangers and unpleasant situations that we should avoid.

If we carry this fear with us for a long time, and we allow it to grow and occupy a large place in our daily lives, we allow it to become a recurring filter that we use to deal with reality. In order for this not to happen , it is positive to know where this fear is coming from, and to act. In the light of fear: action and commitment.

“If the challenge is against yourself, the opponent is inside.”

When your motivation is fear itself

Fear is a primitive emotion that has given way to the survival of mankind. As with all other emotions, if regulated, it has a functional value. But if it is unregulated, it is one of the most damaging emotions we can experience. If our fears take over our lives, this life will now be ruled by avoidance. Also by anxiety and irrational behavior. It can also lead to disorders with major depression.

When our actions are motivated by fear, we do not enjoy ourselves or life. We are simply seeking to stifle the unrest that is being produced, trying to stop or slowing down growth. There are many kinds of fears. A person may feel afraid of specific things, such as ghosts, dogs, water, pigeons, etc. But there are also fears that are more diffuse, such as fear of talking to strangers, starting something new, talking in public, flying, etc.

The list of things we are afraid of can be endless. It can therefore be difficult to understand your fear and its origins. A fear can have several different meanings and manifestations for each individual person. Although the strategies used in a therapeutic consultation to try to overcome them are similar. They focus on the common denominator of all fears. To be able to confront and understand your fears, you need to relax, calm down, observe objectively and in contrast to the facts, for your reaction to be appropriate and positive. If you can not kill the monsters , tame them.

“Fear is always willing to see things in a worse version than they really are.”
–Tito Livio–

Identify and understand your fear of getting to know your opponent

The first step to overcoming your fear is to understand its origins. Meditation and self-evaluation create the way to understand ourselves and get to know our true adversary.

Where do our fears come from? Fear can come from something that has been said to us, something we have seen or previous experiences. Once we know the cause, we can start working on overcoming it. To identify the cause, it is good to examine the beliefs that support our phobias.

Beliefs that lead us to fear are exaggerated thoughts that are activated without the presence of any real threat. In these situations, a distortion of the system of fear occurs. There is a distortion in our emotions that is provoked by our faith.

Our fears are enemies that paralyze us. Enemies that exist only in our minds and keep us from performing the necessary behavior on a daily basis. Even from the outside, these are not enough reason to feel incapacitated. Identifying and confronting them will allow us to see that most types of fear are excessive and only serve to cover uncertainty.

When we are in a situation we do not like and want to run away from, it is best to act. To do so, you must travel through your inner world, without losing the external references to foreshadow your fears. First of all, you need to analyze whether your fears are real or imaginary. If it is real, a good initiative is to look at the situation we are in, come up with alternative actions and make a decision. If it is imaginary, you can implement what we have said throughout the article!

“No one has reached the top with the fear.”
-Publio Siro-