Forget These 7 Thoughts To Find Happiness

Finding happiness is a function that defines us as human beings. But we often meet an enemy who gets in the way of our path to happiness. This enemy is ourselves, because of the limitations we set for ourselves, whether intentionally or not.

Many people cling to certain thoughts and think about what they need to do to be happy when in reality they are just limiting their ability to achieve true happiness. Their first mistake is to define “happiness” incorrectly. For as James E. Talmage wrote, one of the biggest problems that people face today is recognizing the difference between joy and pleasure.

“Happiness does not always require success, prosperity or achievement. It is often the joy of hopeful struggle, initiation of purpose and energy to some good end. True happiness has its roots in selflessness – its flowering is in love of some kind. ”
-William George the Jordan

Break the chains to find happiness

Given the way we live today, being happy does not mean doing more or achieving more. What you really need to do is free yourself, stop doing so much and forget certain patterns of behavior. In the era of freedom, we are still tied to a long line of invisible chains that keep us from being ourselves and finding happiness.

Breaking these chains and getting rid of these thoughts can bring you much closer to happiness than anything else. These are the thoughts you should let go of:

1. Stop seeking approval from others

Start thinking about what you want and do not depend on the opinions of others. Do not let others manipulate your decisions or organize your life. Live by your own values. If you are dependent on the opinions of others, you will do things for them, according to their interests. But what about your own interests?

Release your anger and envy

Anger and envy will consume you from within. You are the one who is punished and makes yourself unhappy, the one responsible for harm caused by others. Learn to make peace with the people who have hurt you. If you forgive them, you will feel better. The people who make you angry control you. Take back control by letting go of anger and forgiving them.

 “Life gets easier when you learn to accept an apology you never got.”
-Robert Braul-

3. Get rid of the idea of ​​perfection

Wanting to be perfect is honorable in some respects, at least if you are speaking in spiritual terms. Loving and appreciating perfection is also commendable. But living for perfection is very different. Stop thinking about the perfect body, the perfect partner, the perfect life, the perfect things. The constant pursuit of perfection can lead to obsession, lower you, and prevent you from making progress.

4. Stop believing that money equals happiness

You’ve heard it before: money can’t buy happiness. To justify their unhappiness, many still say “maybe not, but it helps.” But what really makes them unhappy is not having found meaning in their lives. Money and happiness have nothing to do with each other. It is the way you value what you have and what you experience that determines happiness, no matter what you have.

“A man’s wealth is not in what he has, but what he leaves behind.”
–Yasmina Khadra–

5. Stop making excuses

Do not make excuses. If something does not go well, do something about it. If you need something you do not have, then do what you have to do to get it. If you do not have what you need, you need to find an alternative to find happiness.

If you want to do something or learn something, what are you waiting for? If you do not like something, change it. And if you can not change it, you need to change yourself. Do you want results? What are you waiting for?

“When you think it’s too late, be careful not to allow it to become your excuse to give up. No one can keep you from success except yourself. ”
-Wang Deshun-

6. Do not be so stubborn

Do not be stubborn. Admit your mistakes, your erroneous thoughts and your unproductive attitudes once and for all. Admitting and correcting your mistakes does not make you weaker. When you are less stubborn and rigid, you will be more open to positive change and more flexible in dealing with problems.

“The difference between perseverance and rigidity is that the first comes from a strong ‘I will’ and the second from a strong ‘I do not want’.”
-Henry Ward Beecher-

7. Release your emotional baggage

Weighing yourself down with negative feelings about past experiences will only make it harder for you to move on and find happiness. Stop living in the past. Learn, forgive, and move forward so you can be happy. The burden of pain will prevent you from seeing all the possibilities that present themselves to you and cause you to mistakenly judge the people you meet on your path.