Learn To Express Yourself And Be Free

You have probably been in situations where you could not express yourself. You were asked not to say anything or you could just sense this.

Sometimes you have probably kept quiet without even being aware of it. In this article, we talk about how to express yourself. You will see what it is all about, why it can hurt more than benefit not to express yourself, and how you can tackle this.

Why can you not talk about it and express yourself?

It can happen in any situation. On the one hand, you are asked not to say anything, because of what others would think. On the other hand, you are not allowed to talk about anything you are interested in and people do not tell you why.

There are also family secrets that should not be shared. These experiences can be traumatic and will limit your ability to make yourself understood.

It turns out that even when you are not talking about certain things, those things remain. Emotions, behaviors and thoughts thus remain as well. Why? Because people have different ways of communicating, and even though the verbal language is not present, it is non-verbal.

It is worth noting that not everyone says that you should not talk about something that is malicious. Sometimes you can, almost unconsciously, talk about something and hurt someone without having any intention of doing so.

Conversely, some people want to hurt you, by preventing you from expressing yourself, forbidding you to talk or making fun of how you do it, and others want to protect you without knowing that they are hurting you.

It can be harmful not to be able to express yourself

In this context, silence can be harmful because it prevents your brain from expressing ideas beyond your inner speech. Do you not feel that you are about to explode when you can not express anything to others?

When others do not allow you to express yourself, they disqualify your freedom of speech. Sometimes you have to keep quiet, especially if the other person is having a hard time, but doing it all the time can make you feel insignificant and it becomes a barrier between helping others and protecting your rights.

Other times, you may be afraid to talk. Especially when you feel ashamed or hurt by what you have experienced before. However, you have to talk about it to let it out and to somehow learn from it. When you do not go through this process, you will go through it again and again and become anxious about it.

However, there are other times when secrets are kept to keep people happy. However, they will not be. People have other ways of discovering things or they will not be able to take on other challenges because they are aware that something is happening but cannot understand what is really going on.

How to handle similar situations

• Express how you feel. You do not have to do it by talking about it; you can also use art, exercise, meditation and connect your emotions with others.
• Seek help. Whether it is professional help, such as a psychologist, or from the people close to you. Seeking help is not a bad thing. But it’s bad to do nothing by feeling sad or helpless.

• Work with your resilience. It is possible to move on. How? By working on your problems and giving your experiences a new perspective filled with learning.
• Set boundaries. If someone hurts you, tell them. This is a way to protect yourself and for others to know that something is bothering you.

On the other hand, if you have your suspicions, ask the other person to tell you what is going on. This way you can help them share their burden and you will be prepared and set a strategy to deal with the pain.

What is not being said can give you great pain. As you can see, there are many ways to express yourself and feel free. Remember that even if people who do not allow you to express yourself are not always out to hurt you, they can do the same.

As such, it is important to make the invisible visible in a self-assertive way. To do this, use the strategies, skills, and attitudes we shared here.