The Three Types Of Loneliness When Everything Collapses

It’s so important to have someone close by when everything collapses. When the weight of life crushes our backs and makes us feel small. In the moments when we would be willing to make a deal with the devil, to escape the misery. We feel that no one is closer to misery than us. We experience a loneliness.

Simply mortal, more mortal than ever. It’s not about having someone to take us to the surface. We just need someone to stop our fall. Someone who can come over a few hours, with nothing but time and say, “I am yours. You have my five senses. My touch to hold you, my ears to hear, my mouth to offer words of support, my soul to become one with yours. ”

Three types of loneliness for those who are not looking for it

There are three types of loneliness that people do not seek. The first we have all felt. It is the feeling we get when we are surrounded by people but feel that we are not connected to any of them. Just as we do not feel the connection to the air rushing through our hair, or the sun warming our face.

Our inner turmoil makes us feel terribly unique and alone. The weird.

This kind of loneliness typically disappears when the crowds go away and we are left with only the important people. Once the party is over, it’s time to clean up. Eat the last pieces of food and throw away the empty bottles. When the music turns off and you realize how much you missed the absence of meaningless vibrations. Empty.

The loneliness of the first, the last and the only

There is another type of loneliness, and it is the one you feel first or last. Those working on a project that involves a long, winding journey. A journey without a map. That kind of loneliness makes us great. They make us strong.

It tests our limits. It’s about doing something that we don’t really know how to do, but do anyway. While disturbing, these experiences are crucial.

This loneliness is more positive. It leaves a taste of freedom on your lips. A sense of “Go!”

In these situations , we must be our own friends. We create a path for others, we move on alone. Maybe others have walked similar paths, but we can not shake the feeling that no one understands us, of us. After all, they have not lived our lives. They have not gone our special way.

The worst loneliness

The last type of loneliness is the worst . It is to look around and not see anyone. To feel like people are fading into the distance even as you go forward to chase them until there is no one left.

You want to think that you will eventually come to the surface from this dark water and everything will be as it was before. Just like when you swam as a child, you will return to the surface and grace will give you the breath. But now it’s not just your lungs that are burning… And you’re wondering if you really want to get back to the surface at all. It’s different now. You feel like no one will miss you.

It feels like there is nothing left . You can open your eyes, but there is no light. Only the shadows become smaller and smaller by those who swim over you as you sink. You feel like getting further and further away. Your cries are inaudible to those who lie above you. You begin to believe that escape is impossible. You clench your fists and grab at the water, but it slides through your fingers.

But sometimes someone slows down your speed, catches you for a moment, and you regain your faith. You feel silly for having lost it, for judging the distance between you and the others. Some will have enough care to stop your fall. Others will stop it for a moment.

You do not have to go through a depression alone. If you have suicidal thoughts, talk to a person right away.