It’s Invaluable To Be Happy With Yourself

It is invaluable to be happy with yourself. That kind of psychological craft requires two things: dealing with the past and not being obsessed with the future. Above all, it means learning to think in the right way. It means focusing on the present to create inner peace.

We are sure you agree with these statements. But why is it so hard for us to find the inner balance to enjoy ourselves and the things we have? There is always something missing that tears at you and prevents you from feeling a prolonged feeling of well-being. The kind of well-being that never expires and stays strong no matter how strong the storm is.

“Being yourself in a world that is constantly trying to make you something else is the greatest achievement.”
–Ralph Waldo Emerson–

The world of psychology has always made its efforts to make it easier for us. But it used to be a lot more complicated. For a long time, psychological theories and strategies tried to understand only the most neurotic aspects of humans. It wasn’t until the late ’70s that people like Martin Seligman and Aaron T. Beck began to change things.

Martin Seligman, known to people because of his studies on depression and learned helplessness, thinks that psychology needed to aim in a new direction: happiness. And Aaron T. Beck, a pioneer in cognitive therapy, showed us something important:  to be happy with yourself, you need to have a kind of positive filter when you look at the world… and at yourself.

Acceptance, the key to personal well-being

Epictetus said in his “Manual for Living” that we all try to bend the world to our own desires.  It is almost childish to try to do this. It can cause a lot of frustration because it is impossible. The most significant Stoic philosopher of his time said that we should just want things based on the way they actually are.

So the art of being happy with yourself is also the art of accepting. But remember that acceptance does not mean the same as passivity or termination. The trick is actually easier than it seems. It just requires you to put in a few goals:

• Accept the negative side of things the moment they happen so you take control and create change. For example, you need to be able to quickly detect your limiting, negative thoughts before they can completely take over your mind and your ability to focus.
• Accept who you are, your past and present history, the person you see every day in the mirror, with all your strengths and weaknesses. Try to value yourself without waiting for other people to do it for you.

Being okay with yourself means knowing how to exercise some kind of acceptance for active control over your thoughts. Maybe the things around you and even the people in your most intimate circles do not always act the way you want them to. But none of that should make you feel desperate. If you are calm on the inside, if you feel self-love and balance, there is no cloud that can cover the sun in you.

Being happy with yourself: the art of personal appreciation

Personal appreciation is as useful as it is unknown. You will learn that when you realize that you have neglected yourself, you feel like a pawn on a chessboard. Someone without much value to begin with. Someone that no one thinks about. You want to be the “queen,” but you have to remember your worth at that point. And what role do you play in the game of life.

You can achieve all that through an intelligent form of personal recognition. It is to feel that you are truly there in everything you do, and to feel satisfied with every action you take . Now is the time to learn to value yourself through your daily habits.

Let’s look at some examples.

• Being happy with yourself means being selective about the people you bring into your life who will be a part of your life journey.
• Being happy with yourself also means that you feel self-sufficient and value yourself for your good choices and small, daily accomplishments.
• It also means being consistent with the things you say and do, the things you want, and the things you do.

There is another important thing you must not forget : being happy with who you are and what you have goes hand in hand with feeling comfortable. This is because the feeling of freedom and lightness you see in some other people comes from the fact that they do not have a weight on their shoulders.

There is no feeling more satisfying than this. It’s the feeling of knowing you’re not tied to yesterday, or chained by other people. People who want to weigh you down and stop you from growing. So do not forget the art of being happy with yourself . It is a practice that requires willpower and determination on your part, but you can do it.