How To Talk About Love

We love talking about love as we see it in the movies. We love to feel it on our skin, to hear our loved ones say our name with understanding, tenderness and care. We want to feel it, live it out, make plans and come out on the other side, as a better person. Because we love stories that change our heartbeat.

We enjoy talking about love and stories like these. The kind that has a happy ending – but preferably only the-lived-happily-to-their-days-end kisses, and not so much the daily aspects. We focus on the beautiful, the magical, the conquest and the courtship, the love that we sometimes subconsciously seek and long for.

There is nothing that is more beautiful than a good story about how people met, fell in love and began their adventures as a couple. But what about what happened afterwards? They do not tell us about the part with the everyday moments in pajamas and without flowers, the time at home and the shopping trips together. We do not like to talk about these parts so much because there is no magic in it. But it’s still love.

We all want a happy ending, but how are we ever going to get it without all the small steps? The ending is not the first kiss that you see in the movies. The end is not to run into each other’s arms or get engaged or married. The ending is often when the emotions are no longer there, but that is rarely seen on film.

“There is not a single true love story that has a happy ending. If it is love, then there is no end. If it does not have an end, it is not happy. ”

–Joaquín Sabina–

We like to talk about love, but it is much more than what we think it is. People build and work on their happy stories every day. The key to overcoming hard beginnings is the effort that each person wants to put into it. If each person puts a lot into it, the success will eventually multiply.

Do love and happiness go hand in hand?

Maybe yes and maybe no, or more realistically, sometimes yes and sometimes no. Sometimes love makes us cry, it hurts us and makes us doubt, but it must be worth it. We should also talk about love from this point of view and listen to the other side of the story that we do not normally hear.

Happiness can be found in many areas of life, so it would be a mistake to think that it can only come from love. Too many people seek and need love relationships because they feel as if they are missing a part of themselves. But remember, we are already whole people. Seek to add to yourself, not to make yourself whole.

We like to talk about love that is happy. That may be why we associate happiness with love so much. Encouraged by the hope it brings. No wonder we are so idealistic. But the prince and princess in the tales will also have to live their everyday lives and confront the challenges of sharing their lives together. Since all this is happening behind the scenes, then it is our fault only to believe in and talk about what we see on the screen.

The rest of the story when we want to talk about love

So now we want to tell you a story about a couple that we admire. They still love each other after the first date, first kiss, first day they woke up next to each other. They kept going to bed with the thought that they had chosen the person with the heart. They quarrel too. Sometimes they hated each other or could not find the right words to say. But despite all that, they were happy.

Their story started well. But there were bumps in the road and they had quarrels, but with a lot of work and care, they were able to overcome it.

But we do not stop here. We will continue to the end. It’s not a happy ending, it’s a real ending.

The love between them was not always enough. Another person came into the picture and put an end to their story. So not everything is happy anyway. There are different forms of love that exist, not just the beginning and not just the beautiful parts. It’s a whole story, a real story, which is much more exciting (and yes, sometimes more boring). That is why we must remember all parts when we want to talk about love.